Love: the good, the bad and the ugly

Rate your relationship with this quiz. Are you the perfect match or are there signs of trouble?

Get the lowdown on the good, the bad and the ugly sides of relationships.

Fights are a normal part of any relationship. At some point you’re going to disagree on something! The question is: How do you fight?

It’s hard to accept that someone isn’t treating you right. You might think, “It’s not that bad,” ‘cos sometimes they’re nice and fun to be around.

One of the first signs that something isn’t right is how you feel. If you’re being treated badly, you feel anxious and confused a lot of the time.

When things get ugly, it’s called “abuse” - when someone does things to control, bully, or hurt someone else. It’s not just physical violence – in fact, it might not be physical at all.

It’s not easy to admit that things aren’t turning out like you planned. Or wanted. But it’s better to get real than keep living in a bad dream.

Is it ‘cos they’re stressed? Because they were drinking or using drugs? Or because they had a bad childhood?

Speaking up about things you don’t like lets the other person know that you expect respect.

“Mostly we get along ok, but when he gets angry he says nasty things about me and pushes me around. I’ve told him I hate him when he acts like that. He apologises, but he keeps on doing it. How can I get him to change?”

Lots of people out there think, “Why don’t you just leave?” What they don’t realise is - it’s hard to leave any relationship, and it’s extra hard if there’s been abuse.

Something happen that made you angry, jealous or just plain miserable? Make sense of what’s going on.

If your relationship gets scary sometimes, a Safety Plan has questions and answers on how to stay safe.

Sex is everywhere: in magazines, online, movies and songs. It might seem like everyone’s doing it and it’s no big deal… so is it? Here’s why we think deciding to have sex IS a big deal - both physically and emotionally.

What is sex, and what’s it really like? Is everyone doing it? What’s the legal age you can have sex? Here’s some answers to common questions.

You’re in a relationship and things don’t seem good. Is it worth staying? Fill this out to help you decide.