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Maybe it’s not that bad?

Maybe it’s not that bad?

It’s hard to accept that someone isn’t treating you right. You might think, “It’s not that bad,” ‘cos sometimes they’re nice and fun to be around.

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How does your relationship make you feel?

How do I feel?

One of the first signs that something isn’t right is how you feel. If you’re being treated badly, you feel anxious and confused a lot of the time.

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What is abuse?

When things get ugly, it’s called “abuse” – when someone does things to control, bully, or hurt someone else. It’s not just physical violence – in fact, it might not be physical at all.

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Am I being abused? FAQs

Am I being abused? FAQs

Something doesn’t feel right. You don’t like how you’re being treated but it’s confusing. Is it abuse?

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It’s not ok – what now?

It’s not easy to admit that things aren’t turning out like you planned. Or wanted. But it’s better to get real than keep living in a bad dream.

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Why do they treat me like this?

Is it ‘cos they’re stressed? Because they were drinking or using drugs? Or because they had a bad childhood?

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Should I speak up?

Speaking up about things you don’t like lets the other person know that you expect respect.

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Is it my fault?

Many people blame themselves if they’re treated badly. You must have done something to deserve it – right? Wrong.

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Can I get them to change?

“Mostly we get along ok, but when he gets angry he says nasty things about me and pushes me around. I’ve told him I hate him when he acts like that. He apologises, but he keeps on doing it. How can I get him to change?”

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Should I leave them?

Lots of people out there think, “Why don’t you just leave?” What they don’t realise is  – it’s hard to leave any relationship, and it’s extra hard if there’s been abuse.

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Will a baby make things better?

You might think that having a baby together will change your relationship. Maybe he/she will stop treating you badly? Or will having a baby just make things worse?

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Dear Diary: weighing it up

Things don’t seem good. Is it worth staying in this relationship? It can help to write your thoughts down.

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Am I stupid for staying?

Am I stupid for staying?

You know you’re not being treated right, but you don’t want to leave. Is that stupid or weak?

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It's over

Will they hurt me if I leave?

If your ex has been violent or unpredictable before, are you worried about telling them it’s over? (You should be.)

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I'm not with stupid anymore

My ex won’t accept that it’s over

You’ve taken the leap and broken up with someone who wasn’t treating you right. But your ex isn’t getting the message that it’s over. What can you do?

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I’m worried about my friend

It’s not easy for someone who’s being treated badly to talk about it. What’s the best way to sus it out and talk to them?

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