I was seeing this guy I had known for quite a while. At first he seemed to be a great guy but after about a month I could see he had some issues.
It started when he got mad if I’d talk to my friends or overly jealous if I talked to any guys.
Then it became worse.
Towards the end of our relationship, I didn’t have any friends, hardly even left my house, didn’t go to school or work (he would have been mad), and spent all my time with him. One night I went to the shop after he had left – I was gone about 10 minutes, and when I had got home he had already called 3 times and when I picked up the phone he started accusing me of cheating on him and calling me names.
I loved him so I thought I could change him.
But I realised I couldn’t be with him anymore the day he put a hole through my door and threatened me. In the end he refused to leave so I was forced to call the police. He was jealous and possessive of me and I let it go on too long.
I didn’t think it was abuse… until now.
How I coped
I’m still coping with it, I just tell myself you don’t need to be treated like that. After being with him I can’t trust guys anymore..
How the situation changed
After I broke up with him I felt relieved, I was able to do anything I wanted and talk to anyone I felt like talking to. I got a job too (something I wasn’t able to have while with him) and it helped me to forgot about him.
What helped me
My friends helped me to get over it and I just told myself I’m way better off without him. After a week of not seeing him, my life was already changing for the better, I was much happier than I had been in a while.
My advice to others
The longer you stay with them the harder it is to leave them, you get attached. Don’t think they’ll change because they love you or that you can change them, believe me I’ve tried and I think we all have.
It’s better to realise this before something serious happens, I’m happy I did and I think I did just in time.