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Dear Diary: dealing with feelings

January 20, 2009 1 Comment

Something happen that made you angry, jealous or just plain miserable? Make sense of what’s going on.

Artwork by William H. Johnson

1. THE EVENT
Write down what happened as plainly as possible – no mind reading other people, no judging anyone’s behaviour, no jumping to conclusions - just the bare FACTS eg "The other day I went over to talk to Sam at lunchtime and he ignored me."
2. HOW YOU SEE IT
Your thoughts on what happened. eg "Sam was talking to Serena and I think he was ignoring me because he was trying to impress her and I’ve always known he has the hots for Serena."
3. FEELINGS
How you feel about what happened eg "I felt embarassed, uncomfortable, angry, jealous, humiliated."’
4. WHAT YOU WANT
How you would like things to be eg "I'd like Sam to say ‘Hi’ when he sees me and include me in the conversation and I want to know that he cares about me."
5. CHECK YOURSELF
Does what you want still give your boyfriend, girlfriend or friend room to be their own person?
6.TALK IT OUT
Once you’ve worked out how you feel and what you want you’re ready to go talk it out. Find someone you trust or think about calling a phone counselling line.
7. SEND THIS TO YOURSELF
Your email(valid email required)
Yes, email this to me (tick)

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One Response to “Dear Diary: dealing with feelings”

Anne March 11, 2011 at 5:38 pm

self help