10 tips to make it last

How to keep your relationship happy and kicking along when you’ve been going out for a while.

Spontaneous sweetness

1. Be open and honest, share your feelings and speak up about what you want and need.

2. Keep in touch with your friends. Good friends help keep you sane when things in your relationship are tough. They also give you more to talk about when things are good.

3. Be curious about your differences. The world would be boring if we were all the same. Ask your BF/GF about their ideas and views, and find out why they think the things they do.  This helps you to understand where they’re coming from and to accept them for who they are.

4. Listen to each other. Good listening means putting your own feelings aside, so you can hear what they are telling you without giving criticism or advice.

5. Be spontaneous. Surprise your BF/GF with a fun activity, hold their hand, compliment them in front of friends or write an old fashioned love letter.

6. Ask - don’t assume that you know what they are thinking or how they’re feeling. Always check in to make sure.

7. Take care of your sexual health. If you’re having sex, keep talking about contraception and using condoms. Another reason to keep talking about sex is because sometimes what you like and don’t like to do changes over time.

8. Admit your mistakes. Don’t hold back when you know you have done something wrong. Saying sorry properly helps to stop built-up resentments.

9. Make time to do things outside the relationship, with friends and by yourself.

10. Remember what your BF/GF likes and what’s important to them. Every now and then do something with them that they like, even if you are not that into it.

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7 Responses to “10 tips to make it last”

  1. i thought this quiz and these tips will work for me and i belive that we make our own luck and relationships work but…. i am a little superstitious but i wont let it run my life …. i love my bf soo much i cant keep my hand off him

  2. always be polite

  3. always be polite

  4. im quite happy in my relationship but sometimes we kinda just argue and its sucks. i love the guy im with but arguing just truns me off :)

    -love life-

  5. ive been in a relationship for 7months and we been through so much but we never fight, and when we do we always fix it, i’m young im 16! but i want to spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend he means alot to me and i can’t see myself with anyone else !

  6. me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months, everytime i see him he greats me like he did the first time we met, a cute smile and a wink of his eye, i like it,we’ve had ONE BIG FIGHT, it took a few days but we fixed it, things have changed abit since we hit the 4 month mark, but hes still the sweet guy i met 6 months ago, our relationship started because i could act myself around him, i learnt some/lots of tips from this site, im 14 and hes turing 16, hes read this site aswell, and he thinks it is really good….


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