What if I’m gay or lesbian or ?

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Working it out

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The only person who knows who you feel attracted to is you. The messages you get from your family, friends, school and the world in general can affect how comfortable you are with what you’re feeling, but you are the only one who can decide what those feelings are.

Some people feel sure that they’re gay or lesbian, some are attracted to both sexes, and others feel they are just not 100 per cent straight.

No one knows what determines our sexuality. It could be influenced by the people around us, the things that happen in our lives, because we were born that way, or it could be that we are just open-minded and curious.

When the messages you have heard about being gay, lesbian or bisexual are mostly negative then coming to terms with being attracted to the same sex can be tough. Check out the homophobia page on the New South Wales website Not So Straight for more information or check out the links at the bottom of this page.

Identity

Homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, queer, straight, gay, lesbian, questioning, dyke, fag – and the list goes on. People use hundreds of different words to describe themselves and their sexuality.

Some even choose not to give themselves a label at all. Finding a label that fits can be a relief if working out your attraction has been a struggle but it’s not essential.

What matters most is that you are comfortable with who you are.

Coming out

Deciding to tell others (like friends or family members) that you are attracted to people of the same sex is often called ‘coming out.’

For more detailed information check out Not So Straight’s Coming Out page or the sexuality section on Reach Out.

Support

Minus18 run under 18s dance parties for glbti (=gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and intersex) youth in Victoria.

The Rainbow network website has links to support groups for glbti or questioning young people across Victoria, as well as resources for schools and youth services.

The Gay and Lesbian Switchboard is a confidential telephone counselling service for glbti people in Victoria and Tasmania.

Pflag Victoria (Parents and friends of lesbians and gays) run monthly meetings and offer support to parents, friends and families of glbti people.

Related links

Image above produced by the Y-GLAM Performing Arts Project, Merri Community Health Services, a project for same sex attracted and transgender young people aged 14 – 25.

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3 Responses to “What if I’m gay or lesbian or ?”

  1. It was quite hard to find this info, Please put a link on the Home page

  2. I agree with Sally! I only managed to find this page because my friend sent me a link.

  3. i orginally found this site through my P.E. teacher and ever since ive done like all the quizes and info in it