QUIZ: is it love or control?


They say they care, and you know they do, but sometimes it feels too much. Are their actions caring…. or controlling?
Be honest with yourself. Tick the box if the statement applies to you.

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My boyfriend or girlfriend…

seems to like me for who I am
won’t let me talk to other guys / girls
checks up on what I do, where I go, or who I’ve been talking to
tries to stop me from spending time with my friends or family
makes me feel like I have to watch what I do or say
is ok if I say no to something (including sex)
is happy that I make my own decisions about my life
puts me down or humiliates me
has been aggressive or violent
tries to work out arguments by compromising or talking
has pressured, forced or tricked me into doing sexual things that I didn’t want to do
has acted in ways that have scared or hurt me
is happy for me to hang out with friends without them
has threatened to hurt me or kill him/herself if I leave
makes me feel scared to disagree or to say no to things


Did you get any warning signs when you did this quiz? If you did, then there are signs that you are not being treated right.

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2 Responses to “QUIZ: is it love or control?”

  1. i have learned a lot also thay we don’t belong together. and we been trying to make it work cause we have history and we feel comfort around one another.

  2. I am married with two kids and they are the only things that make we want to go home at night. I feel clumsy, humiliated and I walk on egg shells around my husband because the smallest thing can trigger him off and he will virtually scream the house down. He doesn’t care where we are, he will just let loose and tell me off. Then after that, he will still sulk for days.