Archive | January, 2009
Maybe it’s not that bad?

Maybe it’s not that bad?

It’s hard to accept that someone isn’t treating you right. You might think, “It’s not that bad,” ‘cos sometimes they’re nice and fun to be around.

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QUIZ: good, bad or ugly?

Rate your relationship with this quiz. Are you the perfect match or are there signs of trouble?

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How does your relationship make you feel?

How do I feel?

One of the first signs that something isn’t right is how you feel. If you’re being treated badly, you feel anxious and confused a lot of the time.

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What is abuse?

When things get ugly, it’s called “abuse” – when someone does things to control, bully, or hurt someone else. It’s not just physical violence – in fact, it might not be physical at all.

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Am I being abused? FAQs

Am I being abused? FAQs

Something doesn’t feel right. You don’t like how you’re being treated but it’s confusing. Is it abuse?

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It’s not ok – what now?

It’s not easy to admit that things aren’t turning out like you planned. Or wanted. But it’s better to get real than keep living in a bad dream.

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Why do they treat me like this?

Is it ‘cos they’re stressed? Because they were drinking or using drugs? Or because they had a bad childhood?

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Should I speak up?

Speaking up about things you don’t like lets the other person know that you expect respect.

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Is it my fault?

Many people blame themselves if they’re treated badly. You must have done something to deserve it – right? Wrong.

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Can I get them to change?

“Mostly we get along ok, but when he gets angry he says nasty things about me and pushes me around. I’ve told him I hate him when he acts like that. He apologises, but he keeps on doing it. How can I get him to change?”

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Should I leave them?

Lots of people out there think, “Why don’t you just leave?” What they don’t realise is  – it’s hard to leave any relationship, and it’s extra hard if there’s been abuse.

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Will a baby make things better?

You might think that having a baby together will change your relationship. Maybe he/she will stop treating you badly? Or will having a baby just make things worse?

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Dear Diary: dealing with feelings

Something happen that made you angry, jealous or just plain miserable? Make sense of what’s going on.

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Relationships rights

Everyone has rights, especially in a relationship. What are yours?

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Three faces with different feelings. Art by William H. Johnson

Dear Diary: dealing with feelings

Something happen that made you angry, jealous or just plain miserable? Make sense of what’s going on.

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Dear Diary: Safety Plan

If your relationship gets scary sometimes, a Safety Plan has questions and answers on how to stay safe.

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