Love: the good, the bad and the ugly

Maybe it’s not that bad?

January 1, 2009 Comments Off

It’s hard to accept that someone isn’t treating you right. You might think, “It’s not that bad,” ‘cos sometimes they’re nice and fun to be around.

If things get ugly

QUIZ: good, bad or ugly?

January 1, 2009 8 Comments

Rate your relationship with this quiz. Are you the perfect match or are there signs of trouble?

Quiz

How do I feel?

January 2, 2009 2 Comments

One of the first signs that something isn’t right is how you feel. If you’re being treated badly, you feel anxious and confused a lot of the time.

If things get ugly

feelings

What is abuse?

January 3, 2009 17 Comments

When things get ugly, it’s called “abuse” – when someone does things to control, bully, or hurt someone else. It’s not just physical violence – in fact, it might not be physical at all.

If things get ugly

abuse

Am I being abused? FAQs

January 3, 2009 8 Comments

Something doesn’t feel right. You don’t like how you’re being treated but it’s confusing. Is it abuse?

If things get ugly

abuse, domestic-violence, FAQs, questions

It’s not ok – what now?

January 4, 2009 5 Comments

It’s not easy to admit that things aren’t turning out like you planned. Or wanted. But it’s better to get real than keep living in a bad dream.

If things get ugly

abuse, control

Why do they treat me like this?

January 5, 2009 6 Comments

Is it ‘cos they’re stressed? Because they were drinking or using drugs? Or because they had a bad childhood?

If things get ugly

why, why-abuse?

Should I speak up?

January 6, 2009 Comments Off

Speaking up about things you don’t like lets the other person know that you expect respect.

If things get ugly

speaking-up, talking

Is it my fault?

January 6, 2009 4 Comments

Many people blame themselves if they’re treated badly. You must have done something to deserve it – right? Wrong.

If things get ugly

“Mostly we get along ok, but when he gets angry he says nasty things about me and pushes me around. I’ve told him I hate him when he acts like that. He apologises, but he keeps on doing it. How can I get him to change?”

If things get ugly

change, support

Should I leave them?

January 9, 2009 5 Comments

Lots of people out there think, “Why don’t you just leave?” What they don’t realise is – it’s hard to leave any relationship, and it’s extra hard if there’s been abuse.

If things get ugly

breaking-up, leave

Will a baby make things better?

January 9, 2009 Comments Off

You might think that having a baby together will change your relationship. Maybe he/she will stop treating you badly? Or will having a baby just make things worse?

If things get ugly

baby, pregnancy